You can p[ropose to yoru girlfirend anywher you'd like, but make sure it's somewher that she thinks is special. Remember it is her proposal, not so much yours.

“We have been very happily married for about 7 years now, but here is how I asked her to be my wife. Jenn and I had been dating for just about 3 years, and I was finally realizing that she was the woman I wanted to marry. We’d met when we were both finishing up our senior year of college, and hit it off instantly. There was definitely a heck of a spark right off the bat, but I wasn’t ready to settle down yet and she wasn’t either. There were too many things in the way that could have derailed our whole relationship.

My senior year I had an advertising internship in New York that took up most of the first semester, so I wasn’t around campus very much. She was finishing up a double major in finance and marketing, so she was pretty busy herself. Despite our busy schedules, we still new there was something special going on. I had my share of girlfriends, both serious and the few-weeks-of-fun variety, and I knew instantly that this would be different. Thankfully, she felt exactly the same way.

We both moved to New York after graduation and settled into a schedule that only a medical intern could love. It was brutal for both of us, and we didn’t see each other nearly as much as we’d have liked, but you know what they say “Absence makes the heart grow fonder. ”Thankfully for us, it was definitely true.

Between going to Yankee games with the guys (in the company seats), entertaining clients 2 or 3 nights a week, working out, and watching the Jets play in the winter, it was a wonder I had any time left for Jenn, but she was working so much then; even more than I was. When I was away from her and having a great time, she was still always on my mind in a big way. No matter how much fun I was having (and I had quite a bit), I always thought the time would have been much better spent if she was there, or I was with her somewhere else.

That was when I knew for sure it was time to ask her to marry me, and and started to think of a way to propose that would really show her how much I loved her and how extra special she was to me. It wasn’t easy. I thought of all the traditional ways to propose, you know, the dinner at a nice restaurant, or walking along the waterfront somewhere scenic. None of those really did it for me though, and more to the point, I didn’t think they would for her, either.

I did everything to get ideas. I read books, talked to married and engaged friends, surfed the web, and generally puled in as much info as possible on the subject. Back then there wasn’t nearly as much help available on the web as there is now. There were some great ideas, but nothing exactly like what I wanted to do.

Finally I hit on something that I was sure she would be excited about. She is a pretty cerebral girl. Actually she is pretty and cerebral. Lucky me. One of the things that she loves more than anything is traveling through New England in the fall, when the leaves are just starting to turn. She also loves history and old things. That’s great for me in 50 years, I guess.

One thing that would be right up her alley is art, artifacts, and where they all collect, museums. There are dozens of great museums scattered throughout New England. We’d visited some of them before, since we travel up there once or twice a year. We would have both liked to make it more than that, but our busy schedules precluded too much time off.

Here is how I proposed to her. I told her that we should take off for a long weekend to get away, unwind a bit, and enjoy the sights of New England in the fall. As I expected, she was delighted with the idea.

We left NYC on Friday morning and headed north. It was beautiful. There wasn’t a cloud in the sky. A gentle breeze was blowing, and it was a little chilly in the morning, but soon warmed up into the low 70’s. It made me wish I’d rented a convertible. I kept thinking that things were going almost too smoothly. I had managed to put off a client meeting until Monday, and Jenn was able to get the day off, despite an unusually busy time in her office as well.

First stop was in one of our favorite places, Providence. After stopping up on Federal Hill for lunch, we hit the Rhode Island School of Design Museum of Art. It is pretty fantastic, especially for such a relatively small town. They even had some jewelry on display, which I was sure to get her opinion on!

After spending a few hours at the museum, it was time to head back to Federal Hill for a nice, romantic dinner. I could have just asked her then and there, but that wasn’t the plan. The asking her would have to wait, but I wanted to put us in a few situations that might make her think it was a possibility first, just so she would be even more surprised when I really did pop the question!

Early Saturday morning we headed for Stockbridge MA, where the Norman Rockwell museum is. He is about as all American as you can get, and we both wanted to see some his painting up close and for real. It was definitely worth the drive. After about 3 hours there, it was back on the road for a beautiful, scenic drive up Rte 7, into the Green Mountain National Forrest in Vermont. What a beautiful, scenic drive. I love driving, so it was great to go through some of the most stellar terrain anywhere in the country. We both enjoyed it, and she thought it was very romantic. The plan was working.

We arrived in Ludlow, VT just in time for dinner. I had reserved a room at a fantastic bed and breakfast there; The Governor’s Inn. It is actually the ex governor of Vermont’s personal residence. If you’re going to be in the neighborhood, I highly recommend it. We had been wanting to stay there for quite a while, after getting positive reports from friends and reading really good reviews. We had a great time, and like I had been told, the Inn, the rooms, and the food were just about perfect. Once again, we had a very romantic evening together.

The nxt morning, it was back on the road. This time toward MA once again, and a museum I had been wanting to see for a while, and I thought she would enjoy, too.; the Worcester Art Museum. Not as big as some of it’s contemporaries in larger cities, this little museum nevertheless ahs a pretty good rep and I had a few friends go there, and say good things about it. The best part though, is what it has inside that’s not a painting or sculpture.

The Wocester Art Museum has this really unbelievable old French Chapel rebuilt right inside of the museum itself. It was actually dissembled in France and rebuilt, brick by brick, in the U.S. Actually, it is a chapter house, which is kind of ironic, because it was built for celibate monks!

I had been carrying the ring with me for the whole weekend, and kept thinking I’d lose the thing (or she’d find it). As we got to the museum I checked once more to be sure it was still in my jacket pocket. Relief! It hadn’t moved, and the time was about upon us now, little did she know. We spent quite a while going through the exhibits.

They had an early photography exhibit by Janos Scholz. I’m talking really early, like more than a decade before the Civil War. It was a great exhibit but I could barely contain myself while we were looking at it. She loves photography, especially the old stuff, and I could barely tear her away from it.

I steered her to the center court to look at the exquisite floor mosiacs, and then to the arch of the old, French chapter house. As we stood in the archway that had been built almost a thousand years ago, I told her that my love for her would last for longer than the stone of this magnificent, old church, and how very much she meant to me. When I started in about how I wanted to make sure we could share our lives together forever, I think she began to suspect when was happening.

Right then, I got down on one knee, pulled the ring from my pocket, took her hand, put the ring on her finger, and asked her to marry me. I had practiced taking the ring out of my pocket, opening the box, and removing the ring about a hundred times. I knew my hands would be sweaty, and didn’t want to fumble the whole thing when the time came to do it for real. Although we were in a public place, there was hardly anyone around right then, so we had the moment all to ourselves. It was perfect.

The irony that I had asked my (now) wife to marry me in a place built for celibate monks didn’t dawn on me until later. Thankfully, celibacy hasn’t been part of our marriage up to this point.”

Many have sent in stories about their proposals. They are a great place to ideas if you aren’t sure about how you are going to ask your girlfriend to marry you. Here are some of my previous posts that can help you:

Romantic Ways to Propose to a Girl That Really Worked

Best Way to Propose to Your Girlfriend – Number 3

Best Way to Propose to Your Girlfriend – Number 2

Best Way to Propose to Your Girlfriend – Number 1

Great Ways to Propose to Your Girlfriend – From the Woman’s Perspective

I Hope these give you some ideas and inspiration on how to propose to your girlfriend.

Don’t forget to write in if you have a great idea and tell how it worked.

Wne you're proposing to your girlfriend there are certain protocol to follow, here are 6 you should follow, and a seventh you should consider, if you're fortunate enough to need it.

If you’re both lucky and good, proposing marriage is a once in a lifetime thing. You’ll both carry the memories of it with you forever, so it’s best to follow the proper protocol when proposing. No sense in going out of bounds on this one and causing a commotion or embarrassing yourself for all eternity, even if she does say yes. Remember there are plenty of ways to propose correctly, but you want to avoid any big faux pas just the same.

With that in mind, here are some protocol rules, do’s and dont’s that you’ll want to follow.

Rule Numero Uno – Make it uniquely for her. Your proposal should be designed with her unique qualities and personality in mind. Take into account what makes her really happy, what makes her heart go pitter patter, and brings a huge smile to her face. You know what those things are, so use them to your advantage when planning the perfect proposal.

Proposal Protocol Rule Number Two – Do it in person, or at least be there for her reaction. Do not email her, write her a letter if you’re not going to be there when she opens it, any other such thing. You are the one proposing, and you need to be there to take part in the whole thing.

Proposal Protocol Rule Number Three – Don’t be too casual. In some rare occasions you may be able to avoid this one. On the vast majority of occasions, even if the proposal is a somewhat light hearted affair the way you actually speak the words, and the way you present yourself during the actual proposal needs to done with a certain amount of formality.

Proposal Protocol Rule Number Four – Tell her parents first. Unless you’re (or more correctly she)  pretty young, you don’t need to actually ask the father’s permission. After all, you are not going to let her parents run your lives, are you? You are both adults, and while it would be very nice to have her parent’s blessings, unless he is a union boss or a mob capo, you’re probably safe.

Proposal Protocol Rule Number Five – This is more for after the actual proposal, but you need to lay the groundwork beforehand. If you bring significant assets into the marriage, get a prenuptial agreement. You  certainly don’t have to present her with the document along with the ring, but you should bring up the concept some time before you propose to test the waters. While marriage is meant to be forever, in this day and age that is sadly not always the case.

You need to be prepared for that very unpleasant eventuality, and let her go with just the Mercedes, the condo, and $10K a month. Better to keep the Porsche, the Yacht, and the house in the Hamptons for yourself. It may sound stupid now, when you’re head over heels in love, but hopefully if you had the insight to amass significant assets, you will also be on top of things enough to protect them in case things go sideways in the future.

Proposal Protocol Rule Number Six – This is sort of an extrapolation of rule number one, but make the environment somewhere she is comfortable. For example, if she is uncomfortable with public displays of affection or people focusing all their attention on her, a Yankee Stadium proposal is the wrong choice for you (unless, of course, it is empty). If she is terrified of high places, don’t drag her up do a scenic overlook or high bridge for your proposal, no matter how spectacular the view. Some women may find that setting incredibly romantic, but your girlfriend will just want to get the heck out of there.

Proposal Protocol Rule Number Seven – Select your her engagement ring yourself. After all, if you have her choose it, you’ve pretty much blown the surprise element of the whole  occasion haven’t you? If you’re a bit sly, you can find out what she likes in a ring without having her there when you buy it. It also loses some of it’s romance factor when she picks out her own ring. Discretely find out the kind of ring she likes, then buy it yourself. For some great strategies you can use to save money on the engagement ring for her dreams, see my previous post on how to find affordable engagement rings. Check it out now.

Following these seven protocol rules for proposing can help your proposal and give you both fond memories of it for years.

Should you propose while enjoying a beautiful sunset? Perhaps, but then again, that may not be the perfect proposal for her.

“How should I propose to my girlfriend?” It is one of the most difficult questions most men will ever face, and with good reason, there is a heck of a lot riding on it. If you’re entertaining the possibility of asking your girl to get married, you’re likely facing a whirlwind of emotion. After all, you usually only get one shot at this, and weather she says yes or no, the answer will change the rest of your life like the answer to few other questions.

There are so many possibilities, and it can be a daunting task to figure out which way is the best. A few guys just know how they’ll propose, but for the rest of us, it likely means more than a few sleepless nights. It sure did for me. It is a rare combination of pure excitement, anxiety, and in some cases, sheer terror that is caused by few other events in your life.

We’ve probably all seen those YouTube videos of the poor bastard on the basketball court proposing during an NBA game and getting ruthlessly shot down. The look on his face as his (probably now ex) girlfriend walks off the court, leaving him to face the 15,000 fans on his own, is something no one wants to experience for themselves.

Hopefully, you’ve gone beyond that, and you’re at least pretty darn sure that she is the one for you, and she feels the same about you. If you are not sure yet, check out my post on how do I know if my girlfriend loves me. That will give you some signs to look for and questions to ask, just in case you have some niggling doubts in the back of your ole’ head.

If you’re beyond all the uncertainty, and just want to know how you should propose, here is what you need to know. The single, most important thing to remember is that women love romance. Sure, not all of them are the most romantic creatures on the planet, but even among those that aren’t, it is a rare woman who doesn’t want her proposal to be a romantically charged affair. Several polls and studies have been conducted on the subject. The most famous is probably one of those conducted by Korbel’s Champagne.

Sadly, many guys think that a romantic proposal just means turning to chapter 6 in the romance cookbook and following the romantic proposal recipe. It would be nice if it was that easy, but it just doesn’t work that way. You can always just pile on the typical accoutrements of romance; the dinner with a view, flowers, and sweet love poetry, followed by a huge diamond, but you actually have to dig deeper if you want it to be an out of the park success.

With romance it is the thought that counts, and you have to put some thought into it. A romantic proposal must be one that is specially for her, and she knows it. That’s where the romance comes in. Every woman is different, just as in some ways they are very much alike. That’s not to say she won’t want the traditional romantic gestures, but you have to not only combine them in such a way as to make them uniquely hers, and add in some elements that she will know are just for her.

You should know your girl better than anyone else, and you should know what really makes her heart sing. Use that knowledge to craft your proposal into one that would be just perfect for her, but not quite right for any other woman. That is the kind of romance that will touch her heart.

One thing that you’ll have to address is the location. Where are you going to ask her? Asking her in a spot that is significant to your relationship can be a great way to bring personalized romance to your proposal. Another great way to pick the perfect spot is to take her to a beautiful place she has always wanted to visit, or a favorite place that she has been to before. One caveat here; you do not want to take her to a place she first visited with an old boyfriend, no matter how much she loves it. That is not the kind of memory or emotion you want cropping up when you’re popping the question. Check my post on the Top 30 Romantic Places to Propose to Your Girlfriend for some inspiration.

One thing you do not want to do is propose in a way that will make her uncomfortable. No public venue proposals, for example. In 95% of cases, proposing at concert or sporting event is the wrong way to go. There are exceptions to this of course, but typically that fills your deep seated fantasy, not hers, and one thing to remember is that it is really her proposal. Do it right and she’ll play it over in her mind for the next 50 years; do it wrong and she will too. It is your choice what’s playing in those memories, so make it special.

Here is a post with some more posts with fantastic Ways to Propose to a Girl, in case you’re stuck for ideas and inspiration. These are stories from and about guys who made it something special for their gals

Valentines Day may be the perfect day for you to propose, but there are things to watch out for.

Valentines Day is one of the most popular days to propose to your girlfriend. That can be both a blessing and a curse. It is very romantic, and women typically love romance, especially where their proposals are concerned.

On the down side, for the reasons mentioned above, it is also kind of cliché to propose on Valentines Day. After all, everybody does it, right?

With that in mind, here are some things to be aware of if a proposal is in your plans this Valentines Day.

It is already February 13th, sorry if these come a bit late to help you.

1) Things are going to be crowded. Make reservations and make them early, if your plans include a restaurant, be aware that this is one of their busiest days of the year.

2) If you are going to propose in a public place that is popular for proposals, such as the aforementioned restaurant, propose early. You don’t want to be upstaged by the 4 other guys that are going to propose th their gals tomorrow night too. Nothing is worse (okay, so that is an overstatement, but barely) than sweating all evening in anticipation, the ring burning a hole in your pocket, only to have Joey at the next table get down on his knee before you have a chance to. She’ll be enchanted, sure, but she should be for your proposal, not his. Plus, it kind of steals your thunder, no matter how finely crafted your proposal speech is.

3) Florists are busy too, so if you are going to get her flowers, you should probably get an early start. It is already too late to get the from most of the Internet florists. You may still be able to get them from someplace like FlowersFast.com or USASflorists.com, but time is getting pretty short. Check them now.

4) Try proposing at home on Valentines Day. You can still get all the romance of proposing on the 14th, without the crowds and competition. Also, home was picked as the number one place to propose on V-day according to a wine industry survey. Just make a nice, romantic dinner with candles (actually set the dinner table, and don’t just put the dinner spread on the coffee table in front of the TV)

Hopefully these tips can help you of you’re thinking of proposing on Valentines Day, one of the most popular days to pop the big question.

You can save a bundle on your wedding plans with a few simple strategies. Check out these ideas for keeping some of your cash, while still giving her the dream wedding she deserves.

If you have started planning your wedding, you have no doubt come to the sickening realization that weddings can get very expensive in a hurry. In fact, the 2002 American Wedding Study pegged the average cost of a wedding in the U.S. at $22,000, and that was 8 years ago! If your girlfriend has her heart set on a lavish affair fit for royalty, you’re pretty darn lucky if her father foots the entire bill. If you are looking to stretch your wedding dollars, maybe some cheap wedding plans are in order, but only if she doesn’t have to sacrifice her day due to the economy.

Sure, you may have to make some sacrifices, such as forgoing a 5 star hotel on your wedding night, but overall, your ceremony should be all you have hoped for. Here are some great tips that can really help you save money, but still get the wedding you (and mostly she) have been dreaming about. The key is to be cheap without looking cheap.

Start planning early –
It is never too early to start the wedding planning process. If you are going to have a large wedding, there are a tremendous number of details to be worked out, and the sooner you get started, the easier it will be. From a cost standpoint, early planning means that you have more time to get the best deals on everything from the venue, to napkins, to booze. Use the Internet to find and compare prices on everything. Getting an early start will allow you to do this much more effectively.

Get a used gown –
Think about it, you can have her get a spectacular, designer wedding gown for pennies on the dollar. The great thing about wedding gowns is that they are only used once. In some cases, people put them away for relatives or friends to use in the future, but many times very expensive designer gowns are sold for next to nothing. Check Craigslist, eBay, and one of the many used wedding gown referral sites populating the Internet. Often you can get a fantastic deal from an individual on Craigslist or eBay, but you’ll get a better selection and easier shopping at the referral sites.

Wear old shoes (her, not you) –
Yes, I can hear her screaming now, but think about it for a second; if she has a long gown, no one is ever going to see her shoes, and when you’re peeling them off her feet later that night, she isn’t going to care that they are old. There is no sense in spending a few hundred clams on new designer shoes that no one is ever going to see anyway.

Get discount flowers at the local market or online, don’t go to a specialty florist -
Specialty florists are very expensive and do you really care that you’re not going to have bouquets of  Casablanca Lilys, Hydrangeas, or Lily of the Valley? Probably not, and if you’re having a large wedding with a bouquet she is going to throw, and dozens of tables at the reception, you don’t want to be using these kinds of flowers. You could spend thousands on flowers alone.

Have the reception somewhere that doesn’t look cheap, but is. -
Why rent an expensive venue such as a 5 star hotel for your reception, when there are some fantastic places that can be had for far less? For example, try some of the state parks where you can rent space. You’ll be rewarded with spectacular views and spend a fraction of what you’d spend renting the ballroom at a nice hotel or other venue. For example, the Egyptian Ballroom and terrace at the Fox Theater in Atlanta goes for about $7,000 a night, and a ballroom at many 5 star hotels such as the The Grand Ballroom at The Peninsula Chicago, can command that much and more for the privilege of holding your reception there.

Have the reception at some place that looks cheap and is. -
You can rent a lodge or hall from the VFW, ELKS, or any one of a dozen organizations in lieu of shelling out the cash for some expensive digs.

This is one time to call in favors from friends, relatives, and acquaintances.  In our current economic situation, bargains are to be found, if you spend the time to look for them. Check for hotels with meeting facilities in your that have been experiencing a lag in business, then, and this important, negotiate with them for a reduced rate. Remember many hotels have been hit especially hard by reductions in business travel and meetings, so their meeting room and ballroom bookings are way down. Use this to your advantage. It will take some time on the phone, but it will be well worth it.

If you have any friends or relatives with nice homes, or homes with scenic views, now may be the time to see if they’ve ever thought about hosting a wedding or reception. Don’t make them feel bad or hold it against them if they say no, though.

My wedding was on a beach in Hawaii. It was one of the most beautiful settings anywhere, and it was so cheap it was almost free. The weather was perfect, except for the wedding party there was no one around for a mile, and the warm sand felt fantastic between our toes. See, if you aren’t wearing shoes, you’ll definitely save money on them. It took some time to find the perfect beach and set it all up, but the money we saved on the venue paid for our trip to the islands.

Get your cake at Costco or Sam’s Club –
You might also negotiate a favorable rate with a small, local baker if there is one in your neighborhood. That will save you money on the cake vs. one of those larger bakeries or custom cake places.

Look to other sources for the eat and drink. – Another way you’ll save big by not having your reception at a fancy schmancy hotel is on the booze and food. If you have the reception on a beach or in a state park, you’ll be able to bring your own alcohol, and  have the food brought in from a local restaurant or caterer with reasonable catering rates. You can  even cook the food yourselves and have it brought to the reception by a friend. You can get the hors d overs at a warehouse food store or at Costco for a much better deal than you’ll get at a hotel.

Hire a photography or videography student to handle the photo and video duties -
This can save you a substantial amount of money, but be aware that you’re potentially risking family heirlooms here. “What, Grandma and Grandpa don’t have any pictures from their wedding because they cheaped out and there was a problem?” On the other hand, you may get fantastic results and save hundreds.

These are just some of the ways you can save your hard earned dough on your wedding plans. You may have to scale back your (or her) expectations somewhat, but you can still get a tremendous wedding for far less than you’d expect. Remember, it pays to negotiate, and never take the first price they quote you for anything.

The very staduim where (now) former Texas Longhorn QB Colt McCoy just proposed to his girlfriend. See, guys really do propose in football stadiums!

Well, if you’ve been wondering if guys really propose on football stadium scoreboards, check out former Texas Longhorn quarterback Colt McCoy’s proposal. He just proposed to fiancée Rachel Glandorf on the 50 yard line at 100,000 seat Darrell K. Royal-Texas Memorial Stadium, the very same stadium where he won so many games. In true football stadium proposal fashion, he even put his up on the Jumbotron.

What did he say to propose to her? Well, he actually let the big screen do the talking for him, where a giant “Will You Marry Me?” was posted as a huge surprise for her. Of course, he promptly got down on one knee, so when she turned around from the scoreboard, he was waiting, ring in hand. Obviously, she said “Yes!”

McCoy really went the extra mile for his beloved. He even had her engagement ring custom designed, although it took several visits to different jewelers before he could locate one that would do exactly what he was after.

How does he really feel about her? According to ESPN, McCoy stated that “She’s awesome and if anything, she makes me better than I am. I know she has my full support and she’s a great girl. She’s been a blessing to me and my family. I know we’ll have a great relationship.”

That’s the way you should feel about a gal if you’re going to ask her the most important question of your life. If you don’t, wait until you do, or find another woman.

Before you slip one of these on your girlfriend's finger, you'll have to figure out how to propose to her. If you want to fly in the face of convention and choose a fun way to propose, check these out.

Most experts counsel that you should take your marriage proposal seriously and make it a romantic affair (maybe not the best choice of words for this occasion). When asked, most women replay that they wanted their proposal to be more romantic. What if you have a more light hearted girlfriend, though. She may have her heart set on a something a with bit more levity. I’ve posted some great ways to propose in the past for those of you that want to take a more lighthearted bent on the subject. With that in mind here are some more fun ways to propose marriage you can use to win her hand.

Be aware that any of these could backfire a bit if you are not 100% sure that she doesn’t have that underlying romantic streak that would point to a more romance oriented proposal. If you’re ready, here are some great, fun ways you can propose to your girlfriend. Be aware, some of these are bit over the top, but then again, they may be perfect for your gal.

Video Proposal – You can have a slickly produced, professional video made where you propose to her, or you can do it yourself. If you have it professionally done, it will probably look better, and if the productions staff is good, they can give you some great insight on how to compose it. On the other hand, it will cost more, and if you want to do any of it around the house, it will be more difficult to hide it from her; “Why do you have a film crew here?” She may also appreciate the personal touch if you are artistic enough to make the proposal video yourself.

You can watch it with her, leave it in her  DVD player, if she watches movies frequently, or get a label made for it that looks like some movie she has been wanting to see with her friends and give it to her, suggesting that she invite her friends over to watch it. Be aware that the more complicated you make it, the greater the chance that something goes wrong.

Puzzle Proposal – Several companies will make any picture you send them into a professional jigsaw puzzle. Take a picture of yourself holding a ring and a sign that says “Will you marry me?” Make sure it is in the middle, so if she does the outside of the puzzle first, as most people do, she won’t stumble on to the proposal at the beginning. Obviously she should be the type to love puzzles for this to be a big hit. Alter the picture on the front of the box so that she won’t see what’s up from the get go. Just blur out what you’re holding, or even better, take two identical photos, one with you holding the ring and a sign, and the other with you holding something a bit more innocuous. Have the puzzle company put that one on the front of the box, and actually make the puzzle out of the one of you holding the ring and proposal.

TV Commercial Proposal – If your gal is the type to regularly watch a particular TV program, you can have a commercial made and aired during it. Be advised that if her favorite show is a popular one in prime time, this could be exorbitantly expensive. You might want to shoot for something a bit more off the beaten path, so to speak. The other caveat with this approach is TiVO. If she uses a DVR to skip commercials, she may well go right past yours.

Scavenger Hunt Proposal – You can have a scavenger hunt set up. It is great to do one with a whole group of people, so she won’t suspect a thing. She’ll just think it is a fun group activity. Little does she know….. Give her and all the other participants a letter, outlining the scavenger hunt. Each will detail a different set of clues, with your girlfriend’s ending where you’ve hidden the ring. If you’re worried about leaving her engagement ring somewhere where it can be found by just anyone, use a note that says something mysterious, like “redeem this with (your name here) for something truly magical.” You’d obviously replace the “your name here” with your name.

There are many other fun ways to propose to your girlfriend if she’s not the type that would rather have a romantic proposal. Just make sure, because like a first impression, you only get one chance to propose… For more fun ways to propose, see my earlier posts on fun ways to propose.

If you’re going to get engaged in the coming year, you may well want a peek into what the most popular engagement ring styles will be for 2010. At the risk of sounding clairvoyant, some of them will be popular simply because they are every year, and 2010 will be no different.

Princiess cut diamond solitaire rings, such as this one, will be very popular for 2010

Princess Cut Diamond Solitaire – This ring, with a square shaped diamond is a neo-classic, and perennially among the most popular engagement ring styles. A simple, Tiffany 6-prong setting on a band of either gold or platinum does a great job at showing off the diamond. The upside is that the ring looks great, but the downside is that you need a comparatively larger stone because it is out there all by itself, where everyone can get a great view of it, and nothing else to draw your eyes away.

Round diamond solitaires will also prove to be very popular in 2010, and should also be on your “must see” list.

Princess Cut Diamond Solitaire with Channel Set Sidestones – This is similar to the solitaire ring above, but has an array of stones on the band, flanking the main stone. The smaller stones are in a channel setting, where they are visible only from the top. The advantage is that the channel set diamonds can be relatively small, yet look very impressive. It is an elegant design that is favored by many women.

The channel set sidestones on this ring add to the brilliance

With this style, you can get a very impressive looking ring for a relatively modest cost, an definite advantage in today’s economy. The princess cut was designed specifically to offer maximum reflectivity and brilliance, so that with one in the center, flanked by a row to either side, you’ll definitely have a ring that you can show off.

Three stone rings such as this one, either with side stones or without, should also be hot sellers for the coming year.

Three Stone Engagement Ring – This will be very popular in 2010 with round diamonds, either with 3 equally sized stones or with a larger diamond in the center. You can have this ring either with the three primary stones only, or with channel mounted side stones to add to the elegance.

Remember, you can make a tremendous impact on the cost of your ring by weighing the effects of the particular diamond on the overall cost of the ring. In most cases, the diamond is the singe larges contributor to the overall cost of the ring. Look at my previous post on how to find affordable engagement rings for some powerful strategies on how to get her the ring she deserves at a price you’ll love.

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Stuck for something to say when you propose? Maybe a love poem is just the thing to get the creative wheels a turning again...

If you are going to propose to your girlfriend, sometimes you can use a poem. Obviously a love poem will not be right for everybody, but it can add that romantic touch some proposals are lacking. Here is a collection of love poems that you could use for your proposal. They are also a great source of inspiration if you’re having trouble deciding exactly what to say. For more on that, see my previous post on what to say when you propose after you check these poems out.

I Seem to Have Loved You
Rabindranath Tagore

I seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times,
In life after life, in age after age forever.
My spell-bound heart has made and re-made the necklace of songs
That you take as a gift, wear round your neck in your many forms
In life after life, in age after age forever.

Whenever I hear old chronicles of love, its age-old pain,
Its ancient tale of being apart or together,
As I stare on and on into the past, in the end you emerge
Clad in the light of a pole-star piercing the darkness of time:
You become an image of what is remembered forever.

You and I have floated here on the stream that brings from the fount
At the heart of time love of one for another.
We have played alongside millions of lovers, shared in the same
Shy sweetness of meeting, the same distressful tears of farewell-
Old love, but in shapes that renew and renew forever.

Today it is heaped at your feet, it has found its end in you,
The love of all man’s days both past and forever:
Universal joy, universal sorrow, universal life,
The memories of all loves merging with this one love of ours-
And the songs of every poet past and forever.

I Love Thee
Eliza Acton

I LOVE thee, as I love the calm
Of sweet, star-lighted hours!
I love thee, as I love the balm
Of early jes’mine flow’rs.

I love thee, as I love the last
Rich smile of fading day,
Which lingereth, like the look we cast,
On rapture pass’d away.

I love thee as I love the tone
Of some soft-breathing flute
Whose soul is wak’d for me alone,
When all beside is mute.

I love thee as I love the first
Young violet of the spring;
Or the pale lily, April-nurs’d,
To scented blossoming.

I love thee, as I love the full,
Clear gushings of the song,
Which lonely–sad–and beautiful–
At night-fall floats along,

Pour’d by the bul-bul forth to greet
The hours of rest and dew;
When melody and moonlight meet
To blend their charm, and hue.

I love thee, as the glad bird loves
The freedom of its wing,
On which delightedly it moves
In wildest wandering.

I love thee as I love the swell,
And hush, of some low strain,
Which bringeth, by its gentle spell,
The past to life again.

Such is the feeling which from thee
Nought earthly can allure:
‘Tis ever link’d to all I see
Of gifted–high–and pure!

A Better Tomorrow
Yvonne Warren
I never knew there would be a better tomorrow
But you’ve come into my life and taken away all my sorrow

My days of sadness are a thing of the past
Because I have found true love at last

My days of emptiness are gone for good
Because you fill a void in my heart that you should

You’ve opened a window
You’ve shown me the light
And my love for you will continue to burn bright.
A Breathtaking Fantasy
Joyce Hemsley
My dearest, here I am planning
a trip down the lane to the sea,
in August as the sun is shining
and you’re there to comfort me.
A breathtaking fantasy.

Over the fields we will ramble
picking fruit from God’s bramble
soft fruit for jelly & blackberry pie,
oh happy day ~ sing I, sing I,
as my eyes point up to the sky.

We should be well-nourished
with His gift of the purest,
edible berries, and vitamin “C”
giving us strength and vitality,
ever to be in love you see.

My dearest, here I am planning
a breathtaking trip to the sea,
down lover’s lane so beguiling,
berries will grow wild and free.
A breathtaking fantasy.
All I See is You
Kelly Lobdell
I remember us,
the way we used to be,
I’d hold you in my arms,
your smile so sweet to me,

But now when I see you,
you look right through me,
I feel so alone now,
but when I close my eyes…

…All I see is you.

The love we used to share,
gone up in whirl winds,
will I ever love,
or ever live again,

I am tired of crying,
and I am done trying,
To remember all about you,
but when I close my eyes…

…All I see is you.

All the love I am sending,
the memories I won’t sell,
I know there must be an ending,
to the story I will tell,

I dream only of your love,
and happiness in life,
I try not to think of you,
but when I close my eyes…

..All I see is you.
Author: Anonymous
In this world full of hurt and pain,
I need someone who would help me through the rain.
To comfort me when I’m sad,
Doing everything just to make me glad.

In this world I need a Brave Knight,
Who would never give up any fight.
A knight who would dry away my tears,
Telling me to overcome my fears.

A knight who loves me for who I am inside,
With him there’s nothing more I need to hide.
A person who will still be standing strong,
Eventhough everything has gone wrong.

I need someone who is willing to give me more,
Someone I can call my Knight In Shining Armor.
An Angel To Me
Patricia Annette Roden
The moment I opened my heart and let you in
I saw this great love starting to begin.
I opened my eyes to a vision of you
I hope, I pray your feelings are true.
I have loved and I have paid the cost
And I have felt the pain of the love I lost.
But, now, I think I have truly found
An Angel who walks upon the ground.
You go beyond all limits for me
Just to show your love endlessly.
I could search my whole life through
And never find another ‘you’.
You are so special that I wanted you to know
I truly, completely love you so.

Hopefully these have inspired you or at least given you a glimmer of an idea for your own proposal. Have a great weekend…

Are you in a bad relationship. If yours is showing any of these signs, fix it or get out, fast!

You may think you’re in a great relationship, but that little voice in the back of your head may be telling you otherwise. There are signs of a bad relationship you can look for to discover if you are involved in a relationship that you may be better off leaving. If you’re contemplating taking it to the next level, or, at the other extreme, think that you should get out, now is the time to find out for sure.

Some of these signs are game changers. If your relationship exhibits even one of them, pack your bags and head for the door. Why have you waited so long already? Others, though may point to some things you need to work on together before you just hit the road. If you can’t fix them, then ending the relationship is the best solution, but don’t throw out the baby with the bath water just yet.

Here are the signs of a bad relationship that point to an early exit. If yours shows any of these, hit the ground running, and don’t look back. Chances are that it won’t ever get better, and even if there is a small chance that it can, the risks are just too great for you.

Sign 1 – Physical abuse – If you’re being physically abused, you probably use all manner of rationalization to keep yourself in your relationship, or it is the fear factor that holds you back, but it is time to go, and go now. You may think that it is only the woman who gets physically abused, and the media does little to dispel this stereotype. While male on female physical abuse is often the more serious, and difficult to escape from, amazingly enough, it may not be the most prevalent.

Several studies report that there may be as many, or even more male partners experiencing abuse from their female partners as the reverse. A survey of 644 dating high school students by Henton, J., Cate, R., Koval, J., Lloyd, S., & Christopher, S in 1983 found that slightly over 12% of couples indicated physical abuse in their relationships, with even distribution between male and female initiation.

Another study, performed in Seattle in 2007 by Herrenkohl, T. I., Kosterman, R., Mason, W. A., & Hawkins, J. D showed that, of the 644 couples tested, 25% of women and 13% of men reported having perpetrated inter-partner violence. Median age of the participants was 24 years.

In still another study, this one performed by Hendy, H. M., Weiner, K., Bakerofskie, J., Eggen, D., Gustitus, C., & McLeod, K. C. in 2003 demonstrated similar results. In this study, 16% of men and 26% of women reported inflicting violence on their current romantic partner

This pattern does not seem to be restricted to the United States either. A 1999 study entitled “Domestic violence in Australia: Are women and men equally violent?” found that of the over 1,600 respondents in the study, 5.7% of men and 3.7% of women reported being victims of domestic assaults. While the Aussies seem to perpetrate domestic violence at a far lower rate than their American counterparts, the proportion of women to men victims remains relatively consistent. Shockingly, the Australian study reveals that more men than women needed medical treatment for their domestic injuries.

Any domestic violence situation is extremely serious, from a safety, family, and law enforcement perspective. If you are on the receiving end of an abusive relationship, even if you are the presumably stronger male member of the partnership, run, don’t walk away as fast as possible. While it’s possible things may change for the better, it’s just not worth the risk.

If you are on the giving end, get help now, you sick bastard, before it gets even worse.

Sign 2 – Emotional Abuse – See above….Just because you are not being physically harmed, you may be targeted emotionally by your partner. The threat of physical harm may even be used as part of this abuse, although the violence may, in fact, never materialize. Emotional abuse may take many forms, and may be consistent or intermittent with the partner promising to change their ways, and even doing so for a time. Some emotional abuse tactics include extreme jealousy, verbal abuse, threats, lies, broken promises, physical violence, emotional withholding, lack of intimacy, raging, sexual coercion, infidelity, power plays and control games.

Counseling and therapy may solve some of these issues, but in most cases the abuse is part of a pattern perpetrated by both parties. That is why so many people seem to move from one bad or abusive relationship to another. Counseling or some other form of intervention by a qualified professional is essential to keep this behavior from repeating itself. In many cases the root cause of this is prior emotional abuse suffered by the perpetrator, either in childhood, or in an earlier romantic relationship.

Sign 3 – Radically changing your appearance in an attempt to re-attract your partner. If you find yourself hitting the gym in attempt to look ripped, buying new wardrobes, or changing your hairstyle in order to keep her interested, you’re probably barking up the wrong tree. She should be attracted to you as a person, not your hairstyle, tattoos, or muscles. If you are severely overweight, losing weigh is probably a great idea just on health grounds, and it probably wouldn’t hurt your relationship either, but if you’re trying to look like a decathelete in the hopes she’ll love you again, it’s not a good idea. That is a sign of a good relationship gone bad, or a relationship that was bad from the beginning.

Sign 4 – You find yourself alienating your family and friends to try and please your girlfriend. Well, there’s always the possibility that your family and friends are thieving meth heads, and in that case alienating them would be a great idea. On the other hand, if she’s just driving a wedge between you and them as a manipulation tactic, wake up and smell the coffee!

Sign 5 – Your partner seems like she is unappreciative of anything you do. You clean the kitchen and she just yawns? Well, maybe it’s the only time you’ve ever done it! Honestly though, if that’s a pattern, not just an isolated incident it could spell trouble in your relationship. In many cases, you’ll try even harder to please her, the more she dismisses your efforts until she’s doing nothing more than taking advantage of you. If this sounds familiar, you need to examine what’s really going on, and whether staying in the relationship is the healthiest thing to do.

Sign 6- She seems like she is undermining you every chance she gets. If she seems like killing your dreams (under the guise of “bringing you back to earth” of course) is her favorite pastime, it is not going to get any better once you are married. You have to do an honest evaluation though. There is definitely nothing wrong with dreaming big; if you fail to dream big, you’ll never achieve greatness. However, if your dreaming gets in the way of you  actually achieving anything, especially day to day activities like work and school, that is not a positive trait, and she may have a valid point.

If your relationship shows any these signs, you need to seriously evaluate it ASAP. Proposing to your girlfriend if you are in one of these bad relationships will not make things any better. Many people get married every year even though they are not in good relationships, somehow thinking getting married will fix their problems, or that they can not get a more suitable partner. Don’t make that mistake. If you’re in a bad relationship, take steps to fix it at once, or get out now.

Know these when you propose to help prevent disaster.

This is proposal season and there are so many different ways to propose to a girl, you might appreciate a little guidance if you’re planning on popping the question. There are some important things to remember before you propose that I’ll look at, and there are some classic, and not so classic ways to propose that you can draw from for your own proposal.

Here are some important points to remember when proposing and planning your proposal:

Be sincere – Sincerity is of the utmost importance when you are are asking the woman you love to marry you. Leave the funny stuff at home; now’s probably not the time for it.

Be In Command of the Situation – Women love confidence, and although there’s a good chance you’ll be shaking like a leaf as you propose, do your best not to show it. In fact, you should do your best to portray nothing but supreme confidence, not only when you deliver the proposal, but throughout the entire sequence of events leading up to that moment.

Make the Situation Romantic – Women love romance. As it is with confidence, this is a generalization, but it is far more often true than not. Yes, it’s been said before, but even if your girlfriend isn’t overly romantic, she will want romance in her proposal.

Make it Just For Her – A proposal is a very personal thing. You should use every bit of knowledge at your disposal to make sure your proposal is laser targeted. You want it to be specially for her, and you’ll need to take into account her personality, what she likes, what makes her feel special and comfortable, and what she holds near and dear to her heart. Music, food, locations, settings, season of the year, weather, literature, poetry, hobbies, family, and just about anything else you can think of is all fair game.

Don’t Do Anything as Part of the Proposal that Will Make Her Feel Uncomfortable. – Sure, you may think it’s really great to propose in front of her family. After all, what could prove your love for her more than that? Unfortunately, that may make her feel like running from the room. Eve if she doesn’t feel completely uncomfortable, you’re trying to make everything perfect. Making her feel uncomfortable in any way whatsoever doesn’t fulfill that goal. The same goes with proposing in a place that she may not be comfortable in, such as in a balloon if she’s uncomfortable in small aircraft or high places, or at a sports stadium, if she’d rather not share this intimate moment with 75,000 of her closest friends (possibly more if the event is televised).

Practice makes perfect – You think that practice is a good idea for anything important? You’re right, and nothing in your life will be more important than this. Run through it a few times, including the proposal speech (What you say to her, not the assembled throng) and everything leading up to it. Make sure that everything goes as smoothly as possible, because even with practice, there will probably be a few hiccups.

Plan everything – Spontaneity is fantastic, but you don’t want to leave anything to chance. Make sure you have plans and backups in place in case there is any problem. It is best to make a plan that has a minimum of opportunities for problems so you’ll not have to go scrambling around for your backup plan.

Leave as Little to Chance as Possible – Want to propose outside? Great, there is certainly nothing wrong with that, just make sure you check the weather forecast if you have anything planned that is weather dependent. If part of your day includes a restaurant, double check your reservations, and make sure you check the day before you’ll be going there.

Don’t Forget the Engagement Ring – Do you need a ring to propose? Maybe technically not, but the vast majority of women polled indicated that neglecting to have a ring at your proposal is the most serious proposal related mistake a man can make. You don’t have to give her the Hope Diamond, but at least put a ring on her finger. Another ring related mistake is to spend too much for your ring. Sure, you want something nice, and something that she deserves, but you don’t want to start out your life’s journey together with a boat load of debt. Better to start off on solid financial footing and a little smaller ring.

These tips can help you propose to your girl the way that she deserves. For more ideas, see some of my previous posts. You’ll find romantic ways to propose, the best from stories that were sent in by readers, and some great proposals from the girl’s point of view. There are nuggets in there that you should mine to find out how to propose to your girlfriend.

Good luck if you plan on proposing to your girlfriend during this Thanksgiving!

Have a Happy Thanksgiving!

Proposing can be your key to life of happiness; if you do it correctly

How should I propose to my girlfriend? It is the question of the day, and one you likely want an answer to. What are the most important things to keep in mind when you’re proposing? Is what you say the key to the whole puzzle? How about the setting? Is that important?

I’ll cover all the answers to those questions and more shortly. If you don’t find the answers in this post, there is plenty more to look at in the archives, so take the time to look around some, you’ll probably find the answers you are looking for.

There are some things to keep in mind when you are deciding how to propose. One thing is that most guys don’t necessarily do it wrong, but they don’t do it nearly as well as they could, or should. No pressure, but think about this; your proposal will be one of the seminal moments in your girlfriend’s life. She will carry those memories with her until the day she dies, hopefully far in the future. Don’t you want the proposal that starts your life together to be perfect for her?

Of course you do, and that is the key. It has to be uniquely for her. The proposal you give has to be tailored for the person she is, and presumably you know who she is more than anyone else. You know her likes and dislikes, her wants, and her hopes and dreams. Use all that knowledge when you’re planning your proposal.

Add in another ingredient that too many guys go a little light on, romance. Women polled in a recent marriage proposal poll conducted by Korbel Champagne found that nearly three fourths were not satisfied with their proposal. I pull that stat out quite a bit, and this definitely isn’t the first time that I’ve mentioned it, but I do it to prove a point.

Far too many guys don’t give enough thought to how they should propose to their girlfriends. Let’s qualify that a bit. Many actually give it entirely too much thought, but it’s the paralyzed, deer in the headlights kind of thought. You know; “What am I going to do?” Then, all to often they end up doing what too many guys do, and give her the old standby nice restaurant proposal.

There is nothing inherently wrong with proposing at a nice restaurant, but in many cases it isn’t the perfect proposal for her and you could do better. One way to do better is to make the proposal an entire romantic experience. Treat the proposal experience like a fine piece of literature, with a beginning, a body, and a conclusion, with the conclusion being you actually down on your knee asking her to marry you and slipping the ring on her finger. Only then will you have made the kind of proposal that the love of your life truly deserves.

So, how then can you go about creating the kind of proposal that she’ll grow teary eyed about when telling the story to your grandchildren?

Use your knowledge about her to create the perfect proposal just for her. What is near and dear to her heart? What does she find romantic?

Be aware of – Something to think about before you go further. If you think an outdoor proposal would be perfect for her, you may very well be right, but remember to check the seasonal weather where you are going to pop the question. You’ll then want to check the actual forecast within a few days of the actual date you planned on proposing. Many a guy has had his carefully laid plans derailed because inclement weather threw a monkey wrench in the works. Sure, you can still propose in a situation like that, but it won’t be the special proposal you’d planned out.

Remember that you’re striving for a whole experience with a beginning, middle, and conclusion. Like any other intricate task, break up your plans into manageable pieces. Do you want the experience to include travel? If so, where to? Planning that portion of her proposal is one piece. You can start by looking for a city or location you think would be the perfect spot, and then looking for a place to propose in that city. Alternatively, you can just look for the perfect spot to propose, and then make your travel plans to the city where it happens to be.
See my post on the Top 30 Romantic Places to Propose Marriage for some inspiration.

Maybe traveling isn’t what you have in mind, and you want to propose closer to home. There are some great reasons to propose close to home, including budget and time constraints, or being able to propose at a romantically significant location. Planning your proposal around something significant to your relationship, such as the location of your first date can be a great idea. That has serious romantic connotations.

Something else to be aware of – Remember that planning your proposal for certain days can give you plenty of competition with other proposers. Valentines Day is the most common of these competitive days. It’s not uncommon for there to be three or four proposals at a popular romantic restaurant on any given Valentines Day. If you want to propose on Valentine’s Day, think twice about doing it at a popular, romantic restaurant, or other popular romantic location in your city. You don’t want to be about to drop to your knee and give your proposal speech, only to have some guy two tables over beat you to the punch.

When you are designing your proposal, remember that it is all about her. Some women will want something simple, others will really appreciate something more extravagant. What ever you choose, sincerity is of paramount importance. You need to communicate to her that she is special, that she is the only one for you, and why she is the only one for you.

The ring, always remember the ring. One of the most serious mistakes a man can make is proposing without the ring, so don’t make it. If the economy has rendered you a bit short of funds, you may have to get a smaller ring that you would like, but for goodness sake don’t propose without one. You can usually by rings on credit or using your credit cards, but don’t go too deep in the hole for her ring. You do not want to start off your life together deep in debt. See some of my previous posts for powerful strategies to get affordable engagement rings.

Making your proposal romantic and about her doesn’t means just taking every item from the romance menu and serving it up as a proposal. Let’s see, I’ll have the flowers, serve her a nice dinner, a nice box of candy, and then get down on one knee. Anyone could do that! Remember that it has to be especially for her, and take elements from her likes and personality that she’ll really appreciate; only then is it the perfect proposal.

Here is another important tip to remember when planning how to propose; don’t do anything that would make her uncomfortable. Now, that may seem self evident, but guys often forget this vital bit of information. If she is uncomfortable in front of crowds, don’t gather her family together to propose in front of. That means you should think carefully before proposing to her at a music or sporting venue, or in front of her family.

Actually, while a few women would really appreciate a proposal in front of their entire family, most would not. Even a woman who is very close to her family would probably rather the proposal be an intimate gathering with just the two of you. It is up to you to determine if your girlfriend is one of those women who would think that a group proposal is the perfect one for her.

Another hot tip; remember the music! Music is one of the most powerful emotional triggers in the human experience. If you have a special song, as many couples do, can play it (or arrange to have it played) as you propose to her. If not, play her favorite music that fits the occasion. If you’ll be proposing somewhere you think that isn’t possible, at least try to find a way to make it happen. It is another way to personalize the proposal for her and make sure she has the right memories of it.

What to say? That is possibly the most difficult part of the whole enchilada when you are trying to figure out how to propose. Many guys get a bit tongue tied even at the best of times, and you can multiply that about a hundred-fold when they are trying to ask their girlfriend to marry them.

There are countless ways to propose to her, but you need to include some important elements when deciding what to say to her. Make sure you tell her why she is the only woman for you, that you will always be there for her, no matter what (you don’t have to use those exact words)and then ask her if she will marry you.

In the vast majority of cases, don’t try to be funny or flip when you propose. Unless your relationship is based upon humor, this is better treated as a serious occasion.

There is no one right way to speak the actual proposal, but for more ideas on exactly what to say when you’re down on one knee, check out my posts on what to say to propose to my girlfriend.

Here is something that will make the whole thing run much more smoothly; practice! That’s right, to the extent that you can run through the entire proposal as many times as possible, until you can get it perfect every time, even under stress.

Remember, your (her) proposal is going to be in her memories for the rest of her days. It’s up to you whether those memories are all they can be. Sure, she may say yes either way, but wouldn’t you rather your proposal story be a family legend than forgotten for eternity? Only you can make sure she is really, truly happy with her proposal.

There are so many different ways to propose, and the best on for your girlfriend is out there somewhere. Michael Webb, featured on many TV shows, and probably best known for being a frequent, featured guest on Oprah for his relationship expertise, (he has even been called Oprah’s “romance expert”) has just revealed the 101 best proposal ideas.

How can he possibly say that? Easy, he had 7,329 great proposal stories to pick from. He sifted through them all, and after careful consideration came up with the 101 best ones. You know that some of them will really help you discover exactly what to do for your proposal.

Click here right now to check out Michael’s 101 best proposal stories.

Going to the beach can be the foundation for a great, romantic proposal. Check this one out!

Here is the third in the series of romantic ways to propose to your girlfriend. This post is the continuation of 2 weeks ago, where I shared the first two of the three best stories I’ve received recently on romantic proposals.

“Here is how I proposed to my girlfriend. Her name is Tiffany, and she is now my wife. Here is what I did to ask her to marry me. She was still away at college finishing up her senior year, and I was working in DC at the time. It was really tough being separated from her, even by only a few hours, but we did the best we could. She came to see me when ever her schedule allowed and I did likewise. It was difficult for me to leave, with a new job and all, because I was trying to get noticed. She was pre-med, which is pretty time consuming, so her schedule was packed also.

I knew I wanted to do something that would really convey to her how much I loved her, but we didn’t have the time or money to go away on a long vacation or anything. I talked to a few of my friends to see what they did and get some ideas, but most had just asked their girlfriends at nice restaurants.

One of them asked his girlfriend to get married when they were up skiing. That was more along the lines of what I was thinking, but we don’t ski, it’s too expensive, and I didn’t think a learn-to-ski trip would be a great place to propose. I talked to my parents, and my dad had asked my mom after a Rolling Stones concert. While I love the Stones, that wasn’t really what I was looking for either.

I was about pulling my hair out, when suddenly I had a brainstorm. This is how I decided to propose. Tiffany is crazy about the ocean, and it’s not too far away. We could sneak in a trip on a weekend without busting the bank. I found a little bed and breakfast across the street from the ocean in Rehoboth Beach, Delaware called the Light House Inn. From my place in Maryland it’s only about a 2 ½ hour drive.

I told her that I wanted to take her away for the weekend to let her relax before finals started. She had no idea I planned to propose, and that’s just the way I wanted it. We left after I got off work on Friday evening. I had worked for a week putting my plan into action, and was more tired than usual, but I played it off as being really tired after a long week at work. I told her how much I was looking forward to a weekend away for some relaxation.

The room wasn’t booked on Thursday, so I rented it and they had let me come over and prepare it for the next day, when we would be arriving. Let me tell you that working to get the room prepared, in addition to 5 hours of driving was no mean feat when you have to work the next day.

I wanted to lay the ground work for a very romantic weekend. I put vases of roses throughout the room; about 15 in all.. By the time we arrived the next day, the room was filled with the smell of roses. Next, I hid some candles in the bathroom, so I could give her a candlelight bath on Saturday night. I brought up the ingredients for her favorite dinner, so they could prepare it for us Saturday night. She loves romantic poetry, so I brought up some of nicely framed copies of her favorite poems and put them around the room. I scouted out all the nice spots around town for lunches and strolls on the beach, too. All in all it was a busy few hours, but for something as important as proposing to her I wanted it to be really special.

I picked her up after school on Friday and we got on the road. I was pretty excited, and my heart was pounding with anticipation, like I’d had a few too many Red Bulls. I must have fingered the ring box in my pocket about 500 times, just to be sure I hadn’t lost it. I’m kind of a chicken in situations like this, and even though I’ve always been really comfortable with Tiff, and we can discuss anything, the thought of proposing was making me more than a little nervous.

We got there a little after 6 and went to dinner at a place called the Eden Cafe. Cafe is kind of misnomer, because it was a pretty nice restaurant. Not uppity DC nice, but more relaxed nice, and the food was awesome. She’s not a foo foo food kind of girl, so I wanted something nice, without being too over the top. We had a romantic dinner and a bottle of good wine. It’s cool because the booths are all enclosed in curtains, which added to the romance.

After dinner, we went for a walk at the beach to watch the sunset. We talked for a long time, taking in the salt air, and watching the sun sink below the horizon. It’s not like California, where it sinks into the water, but it is beautiful just the same. It was very romantic, and I almost asked her then and there, but I decided to stick with my plan, and build up the romance factor even more.

We went back to the room, and she was really surprised by the vases full of roses everywhere. She started reading the poetry and realized that they were all her favorites, and that really shocked her. She accused me of being a hopeless romantic, something that I cheerfully plead guilty to. It was going just perfect so far, and that made me kind of nervous.

The next morning we took a relaxing shower and went downstairs for breakfast. The breakfast was delicious, and just what we needed to get ready for a day down by the beach. It was forecast to be a really nice day, and it seemed like the meteorologists justified all the money their parents paid for college, because it was the perfect day, about 80 degrees and sunny, with a gentle breeze off the ocean. We just had a great day at the beach, which was one of her absolute favorite things to do. We even ate a picnic lunch at the beach.

A while before the sun started to go down, we packed up and went back to the B&B. I had more planned to help get her relaxed. One of the great things about the Lighthouse is that it includes a massage, which seemed like the perfect way to increase the relaxation factor. Boy, did it ever! We were about as loose as you can be when we washed up and went downstairs for dinner.

The dinner was superb, and she was amazed that they had her favorite food as the dinner that night, which of course they didn’t, but she didn’t know that I had arranged the whole thing in advance. They suggested a spectacular bottle of wine to go with it. I’m not a big wine drinker, but this stuff was incredible! It was something white, but I don’t remember exactly what. Anyway, it was a really romantic dinner. After dinner, we went for a leisurely stroll around town. We stopped for a beer in one of the pubs downtown. Before the Saturday night crowd started to flood the place, we headed back to the room. Now I was starting to get really nervous, because the time was approaching fast. I was so excited to ask her, but plenty nervous just the same.

When we got back to the room, I went in a got the bath ready. I put out the candles, and spread rose petals all around the tub. I had the nice towels and thick bathrobes folded and arranged just perfectly. I heated some massage oil over a small candle. She got in the bath and I gave her a hot oil massage. My hands were shaking so badly I could barely give a decent massage.

I had the ring box hidden under a towel. Her eyes were closed as she was enjoying the massage. I pulled out the ring, and started to tell her all the reasons why I loved her so completely. When I started to explain why I wanted to make sure she was with me for the rest of my life, she began to suspect what I was getting at. I was already down on one knee, because she was in the tub, and I was next to it giving her a massage. I pulled out the ring, took her hand, and slipped it over her finger. I don’t know if you’re really supposed to slide it over her finger, or let her do that after she says yes. I was pretty confident she would say yes, but still, it might have been a bit presumptuous of me. Thankfully, when I asked “Tiffany, will you do me the honor of becoming my wife?”, she jumped out of the tub, threw her arms around me, and screamed, “Yes! Yes! Yes!”

I don’t know what the other guests thought was going on, but I was pretty darn excited that she agreed to marry me that night, I’ll tell you what.”

Jason R.
Washington DC

What I like about Jason’s proposal is the extra mile he went through setting the whole thing up, and putting in elements he knew she’d really appreciate. He did it all on a small to medium sized budget, and you could do pretty close to the same thing for even less if you wanted to. Waiting until the second night to ask her was perfect because if she suspected anything, her suspicions were probably gone by the time he actually asked her. An all around, great proposal!

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Air fare is expensive, but there are many ways you can find the lowest price on your airline tickets. Here are some of the best.

Airfare is expensive and getting more so. Recently one airline after another has been announcing fees ranging from baggage charges to airfare surcharges during peak travel periods. That means travelers may end up paying much more than their ticket price when things are all said and done. There are, however, ways around some of this that can help you get the lowest airfare available.

If you’re planning on traveling and proposing to your girlfriend on a trip, that can be a wonderful experience, and give you great memories that will last a lifetime. Obviously flying somewhere can add up in a hurry, and rapidly render that proposal frightfully expensive. You’re in luck though. Below are some ways that you can pinch some pennies and still get to that spot in the sun or on top of the mountain without having to stick out your thumb.

When you fly you spend money on three things; the airfare itself, taxes, and fees. Recently cash strapped airlines have been looking increasingly toward adding fees as a way to add additional revenue. As the worldwide economy sank over the past 24 months, the travel industry was hit especially hard, so the airlines are looking for any cash they can find. Increasingly they are finding it in passenger’s pockets.

First they were hit by dramatically increased fuel prices, followed by a severe cut back in business and personal travel. Traditionally you’d see airlines offering myriad incentives to entice travelers during such periods of reduced passengers. These days though, it is often quite the opposite.

In many cases you won’t even be aware of these fees, as airlines try to use some sleight of hand to make them disappear. In other cases however, they are right in your face, such as the now common practice of charging for carry on luggage. One day in the not too distant future it may be cheaper to bring only a backpack, then go shopping for new clothes at your destination.

Here are some airline fees you should be aware of, just avoiding them will save you money:

Fees for repricing a ticket to take advantage of a lower price on your flight. – Airlines now charge hefty fees to reprice your electronic ticket to take advantage of any fare decrease on your flight. It’s no secret that the ticket price structure is so convoluted there may be 50 different prices on the same flight. In the past it was relatively easy to call and ask them to change the ticket price if their airfare was dropped. They’ll still do it, but you have to pay about a c-note (sometimes far more) for their troubles, so think twice about asking.

Fees for using your frequent flyer miles too close to your travel day. – It’s true, on some airlines you can just walk up to the ticket counter at your local airport and get a ticket with your frequent flyer miles. Southwest, Jet Blue, and Northwest are among these. Hey, with Northwest, on some flights you’ll even get 150 extra miles for free. Most airlines though, will make you pay an extra fee if you try to use frequent flyer miles fewer than 3 days before departure.

Checked Bag Fees – Most U.S. airlines now charge at least $20 for your first checked bag, and more for the second. At last check, United only charged $15 for your first checked bag. But wait, it gets better. If your bag is more than 50lbs, you may have to pay even more than that. In some cases you may be better off to have your stuff shipped to your hotel via UPS. At least then it won’t be lost or rummaged through by Homeland Security or those camcorder thieving baggage handlers (all apologies to the honest baggage handlers).

Talking to a real,  live person on the phone fee – I don’t know what they call it, most likely a customer assistance fee (shouldn’t they assist their customers as part of the ticket price?). It is almost as annoying as Ticketmaster’s “convenience” charges. Most airlines will now charge you between $5 and $20 to actually talk to a non-computer on the telephone when you’re making reservations. To speak to someone in the country in which you’re calling from, add another $1,000.

Bring a snack, as most airlines actually charge, you guessed it, a fee, for that food we all used to complain so much about in the past. We didn’t know how good we had it. Now, at least there are about a million choices for eateries in most major airports, so you can have a bite before you board the aircraft.

Okay, if you manage to avoid all the extraneous fees the airlines want to charge you for using their services, here are some ways to actually save money on your airfare.

Tips for How to Get the Lowest Airfare Available:

1)Don’t travel on holidays. Not only are fares more expensive, it makes you want to gouge your eyes out trying to get through airports on busy holidays. To add insult to the already higher ticket prices many airlines just announced they will be charging fees, known as surcharges, during this holiday season. Once this is standard practice, there’s no telling when it will abate. Likely never.

2)Don’t count on one of the Internet travel services to always get you the best fare. Many times they will, but there are some things they don’t do. One of these is list flights by Southwest Airlines. At last look Expedia, Travelocity, Orbitz, or LowestFare  all omitted Southwest, one of the lowest priced and highest rated airlines around. If you’re flying for a vacation you plan on which you plan on proposing , you may well want to cash in some frequent flyer miles and go first class, but keep the above advice in mind.

3)Be a bit flexible on your dates. No, I’m not talking about playing twister with the missus, but rather the date you fly. That is easier said than done, especially if you want to have a place to stay when you arrive. Sometimes staying an extra day can net you handsome savings on your airfare. In some cases even enough to pay for an extra night’s hotel. In that case you’d get an extra vacation day almost free.

4) Check all the airports in the area. In many major metro areas, there are several airports serving the general vicinity. For example, if you’re flying into Southern California, you have a choice of John Wayne airport in Orange County, LAX in LA, Burbank in where else, Burbank, Palm Springs, and  SanDiego. Southern California traffic notwithstanding, you can often save a hefty sum by choosing an airport in the area based upon the airfare, rather than it’s proximity to your destination. You may have to drive an extra ½ hour to an hour, but you could pocket some nice change for doing it.

5) Don’t look in only one place to find the lowest airfare. There are many websites that promise you the lowest fare, but not all will have the lowest rate at any given time. Actually there are three different kinds of web sites that supply airfare information.

There are traditional travel sites such as Expedia.com and Orbitz.com. Their business model is set up so that they get a fee in exchange for their services. It’s not much, only about $6 or so. These websites are also known as booking engines.

Most airlines also have their own websites where you can book flights. Sometimes you can get the same flight you found on Orbitz or Expedia and save yourself their fee. However, going through the extra work of looking things up twice seems like quite a bit of hassle to save $6.

Saving the best for last – The third type of website you can look at to find low fares are called aggregators. Aggregators look at many different airlines for their information, similarily to the booking engine sites. The difference is that they rely on on site advertising and affiliate deals with airlines and hotels to make their money. You’ll typically not have to pay any fees for their services. Examples of air fare aggregators include Farechase.com, Sidestep.com, and Kayak.com.

Make sure you go to several different websites before you choose a flight. Only then can you be sure you’re getting the lowest fare to a given destination.

6) If you haven’t joined every frequent flyer club under the sun, do it now. This is especially true if you travel frequently for business. Just because you company pays for your flight doesn’t mean they get the miles. Actually you do, so make sure you get them.

7) If you’re going for an international destination, make sure you check that little anachronism, the travel agent. Yes, they still exist although the Internet has sure thinned the herd. The problem is that many of the overseas airlines don’t make their best deals available to the Internet travel sites. You have to go to an insider to get them. Check online first, but then talk to a travel agent to see if they can get you a lower fare.

Book round trip tickets. You’re probably going to do this anyway, but never use two one way tickets, always get a round trip. It is almost always much less money that two one ways.

9) Depending on where you’re going it may be a good idea to fly into one city, and fly out of a different one. The good news is that some airlines will let you do this free of charge. That is great if you want to do some traveling when you’re at your destination. It will save you from having to go back to your arrival destination to depart.
10) Be flexible about what time of day you fly. Often, only an hour or two one way or the other can save you big money on your ticket. Here’s an example:

A non-stop flight on Delta Airlines from Seattle to Atlanta and back departing Seattle at 6:00am or 11:56am costs $461 as I write this. Leave at 7:10 instead of 6:00am and that extra hour of sleep will set you back $160.00! The flight at 7:10 is $621. Leave at 9:10 and it’s another $20 more. But wait, you’re also taking your girlfriend, so it’s really going to cost you and extra $320 or $360. The moral is: check all the times for the day you’d like to depart.

For some real insider secrets from an ex-airline employee to help make sure you get the lowest airfares check out: Insider’s Secret Guide to Getting the Lowest Airfare

If you’re planing on a proposal vacation, make sure you do your due diligence. A little bit of time spent up front can help make sure you get the lowest airfare available.