When you're proposing to your girlfriend there are certain protocol to follow, here are 7 you should follow, and a seventh you should consider, if you're fortunate enough to need it.

If you’re both lucky and good, proposing marriage is a once in a lifetime thing. You’ll both carry the memories of it with you forever, so it’s best to follow the proper protocol when proposing. No sense in going out of bounds on this one and causing a commotion or embarrassing yourself for all eternity, even if she does say yes. Remember there are plenty of ways to propose correctly, but you want to avoid any big faux pas just the same.

With that in mind, here are some protocol rules, do’s and dont’s that you’ll want to follow.

Rule Numero Uno – Make it uniquely for her. Your proposal should be designed with her unique qualities and personality in mind. Take into account what makes her really happy, what makes her heart go pitter patter, and brings a huge smile to her face. You know what those things are, so use them to your advantage when planning the perfect proposal.

Proposal Protocol Rule Number Two – Do it in person, or at least be there for her reaction. Do not email her, write her a letter if you’re not going to be there when she opens it, any other such thing. You are the one proposing, and you need to be there to take part in the whole thing.

Proposal Protocol Rule Number Three –  Don’t be too casual. In some rare occasions you may be able to avoid this one. On the vast majority of occasions, even if the proposal is a somewhat light hearted affair the way you actually speak the words, and the way you present yourself during the actual proposal needs to done with a certain amount of formality.

Proposal Protocol Rule Number Four – Tell her parents first. Unless you’re (or more correctly she)  pretty young, you don’t need to actually ask the father’s permission. After all, you are not going to let her parents run your lives, are you? You are both adults, and while it would be very nice to have her parent’s blessings, unless he is a union boss or a mob capo, you’re probably safe.

Proposal Protocol Rule Number Five – This is more for after the actual proposal, but you need to lay the groundwork beforehand. If you bring significant assets into the marriage, get a prenuptial agreement. You  certainly don’t have to present her with the document along with the ring, but you should bring up the concept some time before you propose to test the waters. While marriage is meant to be forever, in this day and age that is sadly not always the case.

You need to be prepared for that very unpleasant eventuality, and let her go with just the Mercedes, the condo, and $10K a month. Better to keep the Porsche, the Yacht, and the house in the Hamptons for yourself. It may sound stupid now, when you’re head over heels in love, but hopefully if you had the insight to amass significant assets, you will also be on top of things enough to protect them in case things go sideways in the future.

Proposal Protocol Rule Number Six – This is sort of an extrapolation of rule number one, but make the environment somewhere she is comfortable. For example, if she is uncomfortable with public displays of affection or people focusing all their attention on her, a Yankee Stadium proposal is the wrong choice for you (unless, of course, it is empty). If she is terrified of high places, don’t drag her up do a scenic overlook or high bridge for your proposal, no matter how spectacular the view. Some women may find that setting incredibly romantic, but your girlfriend will just want to get the heck out of there.

Proposal Protocol Rule Number Seven – Select your her engagement ring yourself. After all, if you have her choose it, you’ve pretty much blown the surprise element of the whole  occasion haven’t you? If you’re a bit sly, you can find out what she likes in a ring without having her there when you buy it. It also loses some of it’s romance factor when she picks out her own ring. Discretely find out the kind of ring she likes, then buy it yourself. For some great strategies you can use to save money on the engagement ring for her dreams, see my previous post on how to find affordable engagement rings.

Following these seven rules can help your proposal and your fond memories of it for years.

Know these when you propose to help prevent disaster.

This is proposal season and there are so many different ways to propose to a girl, you might appreciate a little guidance if you’re planning on popping the question. There are some important things to remember before you propose that I’ll look at, and there are some classic, and not so classic ways to propose that you can draw from for your own proposal.

Here are some important points to remember when proposing and planning your proposal:

Be sincere – Sincerity is of the utmost importance when you are are asking the woman you love to marry you. Leave the funny stuff at home; now’s probably not the time for it.

Be In Command of the Situation – Women love confidence, and although there’s a good chance you’ll be shaking like a leaf as you propose, do your best not to show it. In fact, you should do your best to portray nothing but supreme confidence, not only when you deliver the proposal, but throughout the entire sequence of events leading up to that moment.

Make the Situation Romantic – Women love romance. As it is with confidence, this is a generalization, but it is far more often true than not. Yes, it’s been said before, but even if your girlfriend isn’t overly romantic, she will want romance in her proposal.

Make it Just For Her – A proposal is a very personal thing. You should use every bit of knowledge at your disposal to make sure your proposal is laser targeted. You want it to be specially for her, and you’ll need to take into account her personality, what she likes, what makes her feel special and comfortable, and what she holds near and dear to her heart. Music, food, locations, settings, season of the year, weather, literature, poetry, hobbies, family, and just about anything else you can think of is all fair game.

Don’t Do Anything as Part of the Proposal that Will Make Her Feel Uncomfortable. – Sure, you may think it’s really great to propose in front of her family. After all, what could prove your love for her more than that? Unfortunately, that may make her feel like running from the room. Eve if she doesn’t feel completely uncomfortable, you’re trying to make everything perfect. Making her feel uncomfortable in any way whatsoever doesn’t fulfill that goal. The same goes with proposing in a place that she may not be comfortable in, such as in a balloon if she’s uncomfortable in small aircraft or high places, or at a sports stadium, if she’d rather not share this intimate moment with 75,000 of her closest friends (possibly more if the event is televised).

Practice makes perfect – You think that practice is a good idea for anything important? You’re right, and nothing in your life will be more important than this. Run through it a few times, including the proposal speech (What you say to her, not the assembled throng) and everything leading up to it. Make sure that everything goes as smoothly as possible, because even with practice, there will probably be a few hiccups.

Plan everything – Spontaneity is fantastic, but you don’t want to leave anything to chance. Make sure you have plans and backups in place in case there is any problem. It is best to make a plan that has a minimum of opportunities for problems so you’ll not have to go scrambling around for your backup plan.

Leave as Little to Chance as Possible – Want to propose outside? Great, there is certainly nothing wrong with that, just make sure you check the weather forecast if you have anything planned that is weather dependent. If part of your day includes a restaurant, double check your reservations, and make sure you check the day before you’ll be going there.

Don’t Forget the Engagement Ring – Do you need a ring to propose? Maybe technically not, but the vast majority of women polled indicated that neglecting to have a ring at your proposal is the most serious proposal related mistake a man can make. You don’t have to give her the Hope Diamond, but at least put a ring on her finger. Another ring related mistake is to spend too much for your ring. Sure, you want something nice, and something that she deserves, but you don’t want to start out your life’s journey together with a boat load of debt. Better to start off on solid financial footing and a little smaller ring.

These tips can help you propose to your girl the way that she deserves. For more ideas, see some of my previous posts. You’ll find romantic ways to propose, the best from stories that were sent in by readers, and some great proposals from the girl’s point of view. There are nuggets in there that you should mine to find out how to propose to your girlfriend.

Proposing can be your key to life of happiness; if you do it correctly

How should I propose to my girlfriend? It is the question of the day, and one you likely want an answer to. What are the most important things to keep in mind when you’re proposing? Is what you say the key to the whole puzzle? How about the setting? Is that important?

I’ll cover all the answers to those questions and more shortly. If you don’t find the answers in this post, there is plenty more to look at in the archives, so take the time to look around some, you’ll probably find the answers you are looking for.

There are some things to keep in mind when you are deciding how to propose. One thing is that most guys don’t necessarily do it wrong, but they don’t do it nearly as well as they could, or should. No pressure, but think about this; your proposal will be one of the seminal moments in your girlfriend’s life. She will carry those memories with her until the day she dies, hopefully far in the future. Don’t you want the proposal that starts your life together to be perfect for her?

Of course you do, and that is the key. It has to be uniquely for her. The proposal you give has to be tailored for the person she is, and presumably you know who she is more than anyone else. You know her likes and dislikes, her wants, and her hopes and dreams. Use all that knowledge when you’re planning your proposal.

Add in another ingredient that too many guys go a little light on, romance. Women polled in a recent marriage proposal poll conducted by Korbel Champagne found that nearly three fourths were not satisfied with their proposal. I pull that stat out quite a bit, and this definitely isn’t the first time that I’ve mentioned it, but I do it to prove a point.

Far too many guys don’t give enough thought to how they should propose to their girlfriends. Let’s qualify that a bit. Many actually give it entirely too much thought, but it’s the paralyzed, deer in the headlights kind of thought. You know; “What am I going to do?” Then, all to often they end up doing what too many guys do, and give her the old standby nice restaurant proposal.

There is nothing inherently wrong with proposing at a nice restaurant, but in many cases it isn’t the perfect proposal for her and you could do better. One way to do better is to make the proposal an entire romantic experience. Treat the proposal experience like a fine piece of literature, with a beginning, a body, and a conclusion, with the conclusion being you actually down on your knee asking her to marry you and slipping the ring on her finger. Only then will you have made the kind of proposal that the love of your life truly deserves.

So, how then can you go about creating the kind of proposal that she’ll grow teary eyed about when telling the story to your grandchildren?

Use your knowledge about her to create the perfect proposal just for her. What is near and dear to her heart? What does she find romantic?

Be aware of – Something to think about before you go further. If you think an outdoor proposal would be perfect for her, you may very well be right, but remember to check the seasonal weather where you are going to pop the question. You’ll then want to check the actual forecast within a few days of the actual date you planned on proposing. Many a guy has had his carefully laid plans derailed because inclement weather threw a monkey wrench in the works. Sure, you can still propose in a situation like that, but it won’t be the special proposal you’d planned out.

Remember that you’re striving for a whole experience with a beginning, middle, and conclusion. Like any other intricate task, break up your plans into manageable pieces. Do you want the experience to include travel? If so, where to? Planning that portion of her proposal is one piece. You can start by looking for a city or location you think would be the perfect spot, and then looking for a place to propose in that city. Alternatively, you can just look for the perfect spot to propose, and then make your travel plans to the city where it happens to be.
See my post on the Top 30 Romantic Places to Propose Marriage for some inspiration.

Maybe traveling isn’t what you have in mind, and you want to propose closer to home. There are some great reasons to propose close to home, including budget and time constraints, or being able to propose at a romantically significant location. Planning your proposal around something significant to your relationship, such as the location of your first date can be a great idea. That has serious romantic connotations.

Something else to be aware of – Remember that planning your proposal for certain days can give you plenty of competition with other proposers. Valentines Day is the most common of these competitive days. It’s not uncommon for there to be three or four proposals at a popular romantic restaurant on any given Valentines Day. If you want to propose on Valentine’s Day, think twice about doing it at a popular, romantic restaurant, or other popular romantic location in your city. You don’t want to be about to drop to your knee and give your proposal speech, only to have some guy two tables over beat you to the punch.

When you are designing your proposal, remember that it is all about her. Some women will want something simple, others will really appreciate something more extravagant. What ever you choose, sincerity is of paramount importance. You need to communicate to her that she is special, that she is the only one for you, and why she is the only one for you.

The ring, always remember the ring. One of the most serious mistakes a man can make is proposing without the ring, so don’t make it. If the economy has rendered you a bit short of funds, you may have to get a smaller ring that you would like, but for goodness sake don’t propose without one. You can usually by rings on credit or using your credit cards, but don’t go too deep in the hole for her ring. You do not want to start off your life together deep in debt. See some of my previous posts for powerful strategies to get affordable engagement rings.

Making your proposal romantic and about her doesn’t means just taking every item from the romance menu and serving it up as a proposal. Let’s see, I’ll have the flowers, serve her a nice dinner, a nice box of candy, and then get down on one knee. Anyone could do that! Remember that it has to be especially for her, and take elements from her likes and personality that she’ll really appreciate; only then is it the perfect proposal.

Here is another important tip to remember when planning how to propose; don’t do anything that would make her uncomfortable. Now, that may seem self evident, but guys often forget this vital bit of information. If she is uncomfortable in front of crowds, don’t gather her family together to propose in front of. That means you should think carefully before proposing to her at a music or sporting venue, or in front of her family.

Actually, while a few women would really appreciate a proposal in front of their entire family, most would not. Even a woman who is very close to her family would probably rather the proposal be an intimate gathering with just the two of you. It is up to you to determine if your girlfriend is one of those women who would think that a group proposal is the perfect one for her.

Another hot tip; remember the music! Music is one of the most powerful emotional triggers in the human experience. If you have a special song, as many couples do, can play it (or arrange to have it played) as you propose to her. If not, play her favorite music that fits the occasion. If you’ll be proposing somewhere you think that isn’t possible, at least try to find a way to make it happen. It is another way to personalize the proposal for her and make sure she has the right memories of it.

What to say? That is possibly the most difficult part of the whole enchilada when you are trying to figure out how to propose. Many guys get a bit tongue tied even at the best of times, and you can multiply that about a hundred-fold when they are trying to ask their girlfriend to marry them.

There are countless ways to propose to her, but you need to include some important elements when deciding what to say to her. Make sure you tell her why she is the only woman for you, that you will always be there for her, no matter what (you don’t have to use those exact words)and then ask her if she will marry you.

In the vast majority of cases, don’t try to be funny or flip when you propose. Unless your relationship is based upon humor, this is better treated as a serious occasion.

There is no one right way to speak the actual proposal, but for more ideas on exactly what to say when you’re down on one knee, check out my posts on what to say to propose to my girlfriend.

Here is something that will make the whole thing run much more smoothly; practice! That’s right, to the extent that you can run through the entire proposal as many times as possible, until you can get it perfect every time, even under stress.

Remember, your (her) proposal is going to be in her memories for the rest of her days. It’s up to you whether those memories are all they can be. Sure, she may say yes either way, but wouldn’t you rather your proposal story be a family legend than forgotten for eternity? Only you can make sure she is really, truly happy with her proposal.

There are so many different ways to propose, and the best on for your girlfriend is out there somewhere. Michael Webb, featured on many TV shows, and probably best known for being a frequent, featured guest on Oprah for his relationship expertise, (he has even been called Oprah’s “romance expert”) has just revealed the 101 best proposal ideas.

How can he possibly say that? Easy, he had 7,329 great proposal stories to pick from. He sifted through them all, and after careful consideration came up with the 101 best ones. You know that some of them will really help you discover exactly what to do for your proposal.

Click here right now to check out Michael’s 101 best proposal stories.