What Do I Say to Propose to My Girlfriend? – Part 3
There are so many things you can say when you propose to your girlfriend, but there are certain things you should say. Remember all women are different, so no two proposals will be alike.
What do I say to propose to my girlfriend is one of life’s big questions. Face it, just about nothing can change your life more than the answer to that one question, except for perhaps a visit to your local army recruiter. Asking it correctly is tough, because you most likely have no previous experience to guide you. That is one of the reasons that guys ask this as one of the most common questions when they want to find out the best way to propose.
Here is a sobering thing to reflect on for a minute. Your marriage proposal is going to be a defining moment in the rest of your life and your family’s life. Think about that for a second. Do you realize that if you marry your girl, have kids, and grow old together, the way you proposed to her could become family lore? It’s true. The story of how you proposed to her could become passed down through the generations of your family, one day becoming sort of larger than life. Not to put you under any more pressure than you were feeling already, but that is the truth. What you say, and how you say it, could not only make your girlfriend extremely happy, but could live on longer than the two of you.
There are some things you should know before you decide just what to say, though. In most cases you are going to know these, so it won’t be a problem. Every proposal should be personalized and about her specifically. While that may seem one of those self evident truths, you’d be amazed how many men don’t realize that, and just give their girlfriends generic “Will you marry me?” type proposals. That’s not to say that those 4 magic words should not be included in your proposal. On the contrary, the majority of women agree that you ask that exact question when you propose, but that is only the icing on the proverbial cake.
You can start with the question, “Will you marry me?”, and work backwards. Add to it certain elements that personalize the proposal so that is unique to the two of you and your relationship so far. Talk about the first time you met her. Add in the reasons you love her so much. Include the big things she knows about, and the little things that make her so special to you that she may not be aware of. Make sure you covey to her your commitment to her, and your life together, for the long term.
The fact is that you know her better than anyone else. You know what she loves, what she likes, and what drives her nuts. Bring those things she loves together in your proposal, so that it is perfect for her, and her alone. Incorporate all the elements above. By now your proposal will probably be getting a bit lengthy. You want to cut it down to between 30 and 45 seconds.
Go through and edit it down so that all the essentials are there, and it comes in at the proper length. Remember her personality though. Some women may have dreamed of a long proposal since they were little girls. If that’s your girlfriend, you can stretch it out to a minute or even more. On the other hand, some women would prefer a shorter proposal, and for them, you should make it clear, concise, and direct. Remember to include the essential elements though. Tell her she’s the only woman for you, tell her why, and tell her that you’re in it for forever, no matter what may happen be in your life together. You obviously don’t have to use these exact words, but convey the meaning to her in words that suit her and her personality.
This can help you decide what to say when you propose to your girlfriend. All women are different, and so their proposals should be too. Just remember the 4 words, and don’t forget the ring. For more ideas on exactly what to say when you propose, see my other posts on the subject.
